At the beginning of every romantic relationship, emotions are always high and the couple acts like they are on drugs, some sort of love drug. They cannot keep their hands off each other, the long phone calls and constant texting when they cannot call and they make time to see each other whenever they can. To them, no one else matters in that period as long as they have each other, they are okay. However, this has to come to an end at some point. And when it does, some couples do not know how to proceed with the relationship.
I feel that this period should be as short as possible to enable the couple to start knowing each other. Like really know each other from their faults to their strengths and weaknesses and all there is to know about each other. This will help them gauge if they are compatible or not. And if the answer is not compatible, then no time will be wasted on the wrong person.
Okay, so when the honeymoon period comes to an end, it does not mean that the things that you used to do during that period have to stop. Keep doing them but do not focus all your energy there. You still have a life to live, a career to build. You have friends to keep in touch with and you also need some you time. In short, what I am trying to say is that there should be balance in your life.
Here are some of the things you need to do after the honeymoon phase to help your relationship survive.
Re-evaluate the relationship. When it comes to relationships, it is important to be clear about what you need and want out of the relationship. If your significant other is not fulfilling your desires or putting you first or maybe you can’t seem to agree on anything, then its time to call it quits. Most times the honeymoon period is just a lust phase which fades away very fast. In case you find yourself in a situation where you are done with the honeymoon phase and you cannot seem to agree on anything, then you fall into this category. It is not a bad thing, it just shows that you have not found the one yet.
Give each other space and time; When in a relationship, we all agree that it is more of a ‘we’ situation than a ‘me’ situation. However, this does not mean that you should not have time for yourself. It is advisable to give each other space once in a while let your significant other miss you. Do not just be there every time give them space to breathe.
Try to maintain some consistency; The end of the honeymoon period does not mean the end of the relationship. You can’t be spending every minute of every day with each other. It is advisable to continue doing the things that attracted you to each other in the first place. It is good to keep saying nice things to each other. Tell your significant other how much they mean to you. Basically, the little things that made you fall in love with him or her should remain in the relationship all through it actually.
Spice it up; Routine is boring we all can agree on that. Therefore, couples need to keep things interesting and spice things up a bit. Plan a staycation once in a while and spend the day indoors just the two of you. Plan a vacation and leave the city for a few days switch off your phones and just enjoy each others company. Doing these things helps build the relationship.
Do not expect things to be perfect; There will be fights that one is inevitable. You will not always agree and there are some behaviors of your significant other that will piss you off. But this is expected, you will never find the perfect person so if you can tolerate this then suck it up and continue building the relationship. Some people say that if your boyfriend or girlfriend is not pissing you off at least once a day, then she or he is not the one for you. Let us be honest we piss each other off constantly. Some people even like seeing their significant other pissed when they do something stupid and this works for them it binds them.
Welcome back sweatpants; This is where you get comfortable. No need of wearing makeup every time or those tight jeans that make you look so good but you cannot wait to rip them off your body when you get home. This is where you open up to your significant other for them to know you for who you are and not just the best part of you. Be comfortable around each other and enjoy it. Ever heard the phase the best gossipers are couples? yeah, it is so true they are. For those that are comfortable and free with each other, that is. You should never be afraid to open up to your significant other.
I am sure everyone has an opinion on what you think should happen after the honeymoon period. Let us know what happened in your relationship did it work out or not?